"I Miss Her"
It is pathetically sad that some women will allow themselves to be degraded and devalued by their intimate association with men who simply use women as objects. These women are searching for the assurance that they have value to a man as a companion and a focus of love, and they delude themselves into thinking that their relationship with such a man is worthwhile, when the man is not.
That kind of desperate clinging to a fantasy when the truth is as close as the last violent episode seems to bind such women to hope that things will change for them, a miracle will occur and the man who viciously oppresses them will suddenly turn into an angel of loving decorum. Inevitably, there is a dire price to pay for their emotional frailty, and it is the women who pay that price with their lives.
Convinced, because they want to believe it is true, they remain faithful to their fixed idea that things will improve, that the man who abuses them physically and psychologically really loves them and will change his attitude when he realizes how much the woman loves him, and they continue to submit to the man, until something goes badly wrong.
In the case of Carol-Ann Brunet, even when everything went horribly wrong, she remained fixated on the belief that things would work out, and her life would be rescued from the nightmare she was living. But the nightmare continued, until it finally ended with her tragic death.
Even while she was suffering dreadful agony because her lover, Dugald Jamieson, fatally stabbed her, and her life was ebbing away, she claimed that everything was all right. And that suited him very well, for he had no intention of calling attention to what had occurred, preferring to allow her to slowly expire in an agony of pain rather than seek medical treatment for her, because that would reveal that he had been in breach of his probation.
He had been arrested and charged with assaulting her on a previous occasion, and was on probation, ordered by the court to have no further contact with Ms. Brunet. The man had a lengthy record of assaulting other women as well.
They lived in Renfrew, and she evidently accepted him back in her life, ready to believe that he was remorseful for having abused her. On May 30, 2010, they had a disagreement and he plunged a knife 15 centimetres in length directly into her abdomen.
His version of the event was that she held the knife, not he, and he was attempting to take it from her when it inadvertently stabbed her. She was no longer alive to give her version of the occurrence, but the authorities parsed the evidence. Part of which was a friend who informed the police that Ms. Brunet had explained she had handed the knife to Jamieson when he threatened to kill her and she had said to him, "Go ahead then".
After he stabbed the 54-year-old woman, a grandmother of four, he ordered her to clean up the mess on the floor. Then, he claimed, they went to the bedroom and had sex. In the morning the bed was full of blood and bile and he told her again, to clean up. All that day the woman lay in the apartment, wrapped in a blanket, with blood and bile seeping from her wound.
Jamieson brought a friend over with bandages, and the friend asked if Brunet would like to go to the hospital, but she responded she was fine. Later in the evening the friend was alarmed at Brunet's condition and told Jamieson he had to call 911. Jamieson responded: "Well I don't need this kinda stuff. I gotta get the f... outta here".
The Judge hearing the case rejected Jamieson's account of an accidental stabbing. "The depth of the wound - the full length of the knife - is inconsistent with an accident", as the knife "passed virtually right through", the woman's abdomen. "What is clear is that Mr. Jamieson's main preoccupation after he stabbed her - quite aside from visiting friends - was that he didn't want to get in trouble."
And the judge handed down a 12-year sentence for killing Carol-Ann Brunet in May 2010. Manslaughter and breach of probation was the final charge, down from the original charge of second-degree murder. He had pleaded guilty to the lesser charges.
The 49-year-old man had an unsavoury reputation in Renfrew. Ms. Brunet's daughters had tried to persuade their mother to stop seeing him. One of Carol-Ann Brunet's daughters said her mother had never gotten over losing her husband in 1992 of a sudden heart attack.
"I miss her", her daughter said.
That kind of desperate clinging to a fantasy when the truth is as close as the last violent episode seems to bind such women to hope that things will change for them, a miracle will occur and the man who viciously oppresses them will suddenly turn into an angel of loving decorum. Inevitably, there is a dire price to pay for their emotional frailty, and it is the women who pay that price with their lives.
Convinced, because they want to believe it is true, they remain faithful to their fixed idea that things will improve, that the man who abuses them physically and psychologically really loves them and will change his attitude when he realizes how much the woman loves him, and they continue to submit to the man, until something goes badly wrong.
In the case of Carol-Ann Brunet, even when everything went horribly wrong, she remained fixated on the belief that things would work out, and her life would be rescued from the nightmare she was living. But the nightmare continued, until it finally ended with her tragic death.
Even while she was suffering dreadful agony because her lover, Dugald Jamieson, fatally stabbed her, and her life was ebbing away, she claimed that everything was all right. And that suited him very well, for he had no intention of calling attention to what had occurred, preferring to allow her to slowly expire in an agony of pain rather than seek medical treatment for her, because that would reveal that he had been in breach of his probation.
He had been arrested and charged with assaulting her on a previous occasion, and was on probation, ordered by the court to have no further contact with Ms. Brunet. The man had a lengthy record of assaulting other women as well.
They lived in Renfrew, and she evidently accepted him back in her life, ready to believe that he was remorseful for having abused her. On May 30, 2010, they had a disagreement and he plunged a knife 15 centimetres in length directly into her abdomen.
His version of the event was that she held the knife, not he, and he was attempting to take it from her when it inadvertently stabbed her. She was no longer alive to give her version of the occurrence, but the authorities parsed the evidence. Part of which was a friend who informed the police that Ms. Brunet had explained she had handed the knife to Jamieson when he threatened to kill her and she had said to him, "Go ahead then".
After he stabbed the 54-year-old woman, a grandmother of four, he ordered her to clean up the mess on the floor. Then, he claimed, they went to the bedroom and had sex. In the morning the bed was full of blood and bile and he told her again, to clean up. All that day the woman lay in the apartment, wrapped in a blanket, with blood and bile seeping from her wound.
Jamieson brought a friend over with bandages, and the friend asked if Brunet would like to go to the hospital, but she responded she was fine. Later in the evening the friend was alarmed at Brunet's condition and told Jamieson he had to call 911. Jamieson responded: "Well I don't need this kinda stuff. I gotta get the f... outta here".
The Judge hearing the case rejected Jamieson's account of an accidental stabbing. "The depth of the wound - the full length of the knife - is inconsistent with an accident", as the knife "passed virtually right through", the woman's abdomen. "What is clear is that Mr. Jamieson's main preoccupation after he stabbed her - quite aside from visiting friends - was that he didn't want to get in trouble."
And the judge handed down a 12-year sentence for killing Carol-Ann Brunet in May 2010. Manslaughter and breach of probation was the final charge, down from the original charge of second-degree murder. He had pleaded guilty to the lesser charges.
The 49-year-old man had an unsavoury reputation in Renfrew. Ms. Brunet's daughters had tried to persuade their mother to stop seeing him. One of Carol-Ann Brunet's daughters said her mother had never gotten over losing her husband in 1992 of a sudden heart attack.
"I miss her", her daughter said.
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